I have a 4 yr old black cap/white face mix that I have had for almost 3 years (she was 1 when I got her-I did not have her from a baby) and her mom did not like to upset her so she worked around everything like changing diapers, dressing, bathing etc.....and she did not wear a leash at all. I have curved alot of that behavior (she wears a leash and changes diapers well on my terms instead of hers now). The problem I have with her is that she is not bonding or bonded to me like my 5 yr old boy that I had from a baby. I think maybe because I am the meanie who bathes and changes her every day (she hates bathes and I have even started putting her in the dry side of sink and bathing her with a wash cloth so that she is not in the water....she still hates them but they sleep with me so she has to have a bath before she gets into my bed)....She is a very hard headed little girl and wants everything her way but she does not bite just fit throws.
My issue is that now that she is getting older and more hard headed as she ages....when she is in the playroom she use to come to me but now she runs. I have been chasing her for 5 mins until she just gives up and comes but that is frustrating to both of us. In the past week I have got her to come to me then I give her a treat, so now she comes when I call her but only because she knows she is getting a treat. I have heard not to let a monkey get the upper hand and that they should do what you want, when you want because if they get the upper hand they may start having behavior issues and I don't want her to start biting or showing aggression. I know part of the issue is that she is not bonded to me because she will love and make kissy noises with hubby and both girls but does not with me and she sleeps down by my legs instead of up by me like the other one does but the other is that she is very hard headed.
Any ideas on how I can get her to bond with me more so that she will listen more?
Do you think it is a bad thing that she only comes out of playroom because I give her a treat?
(I do not give treats for any other behavior I want them to do like caging, changing, bathing etc....only coming out of playroom)
Thanks,
SBM
Answer coming soon!
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